Chances are, if you work for someone else, at some point you will be bullied in your career. The stress of this bullying can lead to severe physical problems, as well as psychological ones. Here are some signs to look for:
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If you feel like your company supports this kind of negative behaviour, you might feel your best option just might be to quit. This might even be the advise of your friends who say “It’s not worth it, to put your health at risk.”
Weigh the consequences of your actions carefully. You have a source of income in this job, that will immediately change if you resign. Do you have another perspective job? Do you have sufficient savings? Have you consulted a lawyer or legislative body to help you determine your rights? This is an important step, if you want to ensure you are making the right steps.
Some people will just want to cut the TOXICITY out of their life immediately and while this is understandable, you are empowering the bully to do this to others, because they got away with it. You have the power to make a change, to stand up for yourself and stop this terrible practise. What will you do?
Work-life balance doesn't always work for people – especially for those just starting at a new company, or worse starting a new business. These types of changes in lifestyle can cause a lot of stress and anxiety, which changes the situation at home. This change in home life adds to the stress and we create a downward spiral of trying to fix both things at the same time.
While some people may need to be burning the midnight oil to reach that brass ring, there are a few ways to better manage your own stress, your work life, or business and take care of your family without getting stuck in that spiral.
Here are Ten.
1. Set daily goals.
It is important to set goals for yourself before going to work the next day. Setting specific and daily goals for yourself can help you stay focused while also saving you time and money in the long run. When you accomplish these daily goals, you will feel happier, more confident and less stressed when you go home at the end of the day.
2. Journal your progress
Put your next day’s goals in a journal every night.
When you are successful, put a big check mark over the page.
When you don’t accomplish one, make sure you write a long note as to what happened that prevented this goal from being accomplished.
If you have accomplished something else that was not there, write it in block capital letters on the page in a different color ink. Circle it and put a big check in it.
Delegate your work and family responsibilities. If your children are older, ask them and your spouse to assist you with the things that need to be done around the house. If you are at your job, then delegate some of your responsibilities to other qualified employees.
If you try to do everything, you will get upset and anxious. A person can only do so much in a given day. If you feel like you are doing too much, then take a break and evaluate your situation.
4. Prioritize your tasks.
Check your Journal, determine what needs to be done immediately and focus on those particular tasks. No matter what order you wrote them down, feel free to number them in order of importance. That way, you won't be constantly worrying about completing vital projects and can relax (a little bit) after they are complete.
5. Communicate with people
Don’t assume that certain people will do what they need to do, they may not know what your expectations or goals are. Talk to your coworkers so that everybody is on the same page. This can not only save you a lot of time but also will reduce your stress level.
At home, talk to your spouse and your children. There is no need to appear invincible, tell them when you are feeling stressed or worried. They can offer encouragement support and most of all ideas to inspire you to strive on.
6. Prepare for unexpected surprises.
Sometimes certain events may happen that might take everyone by surprise. Be flexible and when these unexpected events arise, deal with them immediately.
For example, some of your project members become sick three days before an important presentation. Instead of getting upset and anxious, reassign some of the tasks to other employees, or ask someone for help. Always have a back up plan.
7. Don't procrastinate.
Do not put things off, do them today. As an entrepreneur, it is important that you, your staff, and family members complete tasks in a timely manner. You never know when something may come up and throw a wrench in your plans. Being efficient on a daily basis can prevent future problems down the road.
Productivity is a habit. We get used to doing it over and over with all the wonderful rewards it offers. It keeps us wanting more. Procrastination is the same. Once you stop being productive, it’s hard to get motivated back to your productive self.
8. Reduce any potential conflicts.
We often see problems coming and we think we can deal with it when it gets here, this is a terrible habit that needs to change. When a potential problem starts to develop with your workers or family members, work to find a solution immediately. Do not let potential conflicts drag on from one week to the next. Use your problem-solving skills to prevent any arguments. Be open-minded and be willing to see where the other person is coming from. You don’t always have to fix the problem, sometimes you just need to acknowledge that it exists and talk about it.
9. Get help if you need it.
Sometimes you might need to speak to a counsellor or life coach. You may need some guidance on time management. Also, getting advice from others will provide you with additional insights on how to deal with your business anxieties and your family responsibilities.
10. Do the work
Reading this article or talking to a Life Coach will not change your life. You need to implement the change that has been suggested. Do it, now. Not tomorrow or next week. Make a commitment to yourself and your future self, to change today to move towards the goal you desire.
Kevin has obtained doctorates in Chinese Medicine, Clinical Hypnotherapy, and Psychology.